Thursday, October 3, 2013

A Heartbreak

I've been hearing a lot lately about people going through what you may call “post-breakup syndrome”. It’s that special person you deeply loved and spent what seemed like eternity with, built dreams together and planned the future, together as well, that I’m talking about here.

If you are in a post-breakup now, you might feel sad, angry, tired and lonely. You might be suffering from sleepless nights, loss of appetite and low self-esteem. And the hardest symptom is a big pain in your chest. You simply can't breathe. You think it’s the end of your life and you can't see your "tomorrow".

The bad news is that there is no medicine that can cure that pain immediately and make you feel better. But, here are some tips that can help you kill that terrible pain.

Pray: 

No one can fully understand what you are really feeling deep inside except God. So Pray. Ask God to help you handle this and to enlighten your way.  If you want to have a peaceful heart that is free from hate and pain, prayers are the answers. And believe me, God will answer you, sooner or later.

Cry:

Crying is amazing. It's OK to cry. It doesn't mean you are a weak person, not at all. Crying helps you feel better, it helps your eyes and your heart. If you can't cry, try to scream. Go with a good friend to a place where you can do one big scream. WOW! Trust me I've tried it many times when I was suffering from these hard symptoms and it worked like a charm.

Don’t listen to negative people:

You’re probably trying to talk to a friend, your sister, your brother or any other person who’s ready to listen. Usually, some people think they are helping you when they say: “Stop crying, you don’t deserve him/her”, or, “you deserve another guy, a real man”, or, “It’s your fault so now you learned”, or, “I told you he’s not the right one” etc.
Oh My God!! Well, it might be your fault and yes you deserve to be happy but this is the last thing you need to know right now. You will discover all this later and by your own. At this moment, you’re suffering. What you need is a huge hug, a lot of compassion, a sprinkle of positive vibes and a whole lot of cheering.

Keep yourself busy: Hang out, volunteer, exercise

  1. Hang out! When I was going through this, a friend of mine tried to help me by saying: “Soha, please don’t stay alone”. She was totally right. Walking along the sea alone so you can relax is the worst thing you can do. It won’t help. What really helps is to hang out with good, positive and funny friends. Also, meeting new ones and discovering new places are excellent ideas because new things don’t remind you of your past and they might help you know yourself even better.
  2. Volunteer! Helping the community is one of the greatest activities you can do to feel better especially if it’s with kids, elders or poor people. Seeing their problems and what they are going through will make you see your problem much smaller. In addition, the effort you’ll be doing to draw a smile on their face will cheer you up as well. As Booker Washington said: “if you want to lift yourself up, lift up someone else”. Don’t forget the new people you will meet and the team work you will be doing that can add value to your life.
  3. Exercise! We all know that sports activities help fight depression. If you don’t have money to go to the gym, you can subscribe to some YouTube channels like Befit and exercise 3 times per week or more. Well, I am not a sports expert but the best advice I can give you here is to undergo a body combat or a kick boxing class. They will make you think like you’re hitting you ex on their face. For sure you won’t do it in real life (you should not do it at all), that’s why those classes are pretty good. 
PS: Kids, don’t do this at home.  
Make your dreams come true:

For me, what happened was a wake-up call. It was like someone slapped me on my face and woke me up to say: “You had dreams. Where are they?”
So I started working on making them come true. I started by the biggest one: my masters’ degree. Although, it was really hard to do it due to my financial situation at that time but I said to myself, no matter what I will do it and NOW. So I took a loan and did it. I made it come true and made other smaller dreams come true as well like travelling, attending the concert of my favorite singer and many others.
Achieving dreams and success is the biggest retaliation you might be seeking right now. So think about yourself again, think about your dreams and do things that will really make you a happier, deeper and more successful person. Do things that will make you extremely proud of yourself.

Use the above tips or do whatever you want to do to get rid of that pain but don’t do anything that might hurt you or make you lose your dignity. Remember that what’s happening now is temporary and you’ll be surprised how it will change by time, maybe slowly, but it will change.
I want to wrap this post up by an amazing quote by Regina Brett that I love: Time heals almost everything, give time time”. Once you do, you will suddenly discover a new you: a stronger and wiser person.










7 comments:

  1. Truly inspiring and totally true. like like like

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  2. Amazing! Good job

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  3. Incredible..So touching and inspiring! best of luck dearest!

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  4. wwwwaww soha very nice i like it so much :)

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